Planning to settle down in India....nned suggestions

[riba9]

Dear friends,
this is something many of us must be thinking about, but i donot know how many would really do it. my husband and i really want to go back to India for good. both of us r working presently, and think that we'll work here for sometime, and then finally go back. but we realized that time will just fly before we realize that one day it's going to be impossible to return to out homeland. both our families r in India, including our siblings.
I need some suggestions from u guys. first of all, does any one of u know of any person who has worked here, and then found a job in India, and gone back? how were his/her experiences? what were the difficulties/comforts they had in respect to their job/family/society? i have heard there r many people who did leave and go, but after some time they came back, as they couldn't adjust to Indian enviornment again. My husband and I would like to learn about any kind of experiences. actually, it is me who persists on going back a lot, while my husband wants to first weigh all the pros and cons, and he is right. so we would like to hear from u guys, and lend us your experiences or suggestions. thanks.

[Ndelhi]

Hi there

Honestly I feel its more of a personal choice and experience.You can ofcourse take opinions from people but remember everyone will give you a suggestion based on their on perosnal choice and experience.

There may be a lot of people for the idea of returning back home.I feel instead of talking to people who are still in the US talk to people who are working in India.They will be able to tell you about the jobs prospects and the lifestyle better than anyone whos still here.Grass always looks greener on the other side.Honestly every place has its own pros and cons and it just dependends on an individual where does he/she feels comfortable.

I have lived in Delhi, it has grown and it has grown tremendously.Jobs and salaries are great but to me small things in life matter a lot.A traffice jam early in the morning, long ques,disorganised people ruin my life.I give importance to the basic nessecities but there may be people who may have a different outlook all together.As you mentioned your entire family is there in India so if you think that being close to your family is a positive point and brings more peace in your life, good for you.. u must return for them.If your family support gives you strength then nothing like it.

Your husband is very correct in weighing the pros and con of all the things and then coming to a conclusion... moving back, getting another job and settling down all over again is not a small thing.Its a decision of a lifetime.One has to consider everything.What may be important for me may not be as important for you.. so you have to jot down a few most important things you want to achieve and then come to a conclusion.

Just like your family back in India is a big attraction its not the same for me,I am an Indian by birth but as a country it doesn't call me back ...as its often said "home is where the heart is" go along with your heart but don't let it rule your mind.

Be pragmatic and think of a long term decision.

All the best ! :)

[riba9]

hey NDelhi,
thanks for the suggestions. the reason why i am asking for different experiences from people who have gone to India after seeing the US lifestyle is because they'll be the best who can tell us what r the pros and cons of doing this. i can ask the people who r working in India presently, but they donot have US experience, right?
that's the reason we want to know if anyone has done this and really enjoying it, or regretting it.

[csingh]

Hi,

I know of a few people who did go back to India but now most of them are back in the US! One of them was a friend who while in the US had got 2 speeding tickets and he was saying that in India he has to sit for 45 minutes in traffic moving at 10mph every morning to get to work!! Not that traffic/ driving is the single most important factor determining ones return; but having to do through it every day was what made this guy throw in the towel and decide to come back... :D
Almost all of them who came back said they couldn't get used to living back in India (in terms of facilitities) and even attitude wise said they didn't fit in any more.

A few more people plan to go back because they want their kids to be brought up around relatives and family or they are homesick but they say that they would prefer to wait till they can get citizenships here in the US so they always have the option of returning open.
I'm sure they are people who've gone back and are happy being back home but I don't know of any myself :rolleyes:

I'd say your husband has the right idea; take your time to measure the pros and cons. Afterall, once you go back to India, returning to the US if you want, might not be so easy!

[jackofalltrades]

Hey ladies.....

You both are right in ur comments.But i personally feel that its one's wish and personal decision.
There are exceptional people too who came to US from India and settled here because they liked the atmosphere here.But if u have made a decision then i dont think it should be a problem.

As u said both ur families and most if not all the siblings are there.There is no place like home and no better joy to be with family members.So go for it dear thats my advice.

Regarding job...i am sure you both can find great jobs within few days.Why dont u guys do one thing...start applying to jobs in India whereever u want and then once u get selected, you can take a decision when u want to permenantly move to India.I mean companies will want professionals who have worked in US and they can wait for 1 month or may be 2 months also.You can ask for time to join the Indian companies.

I am sure something will work out Csingh.....

When there is a will...there has to have a way :D